This is something like the negative pole to the ability of decision making. Simplified said: if you cannot decide you automatically postpone. Therefore, curing procrastination is also done by learning to decide.
Doing the one dissolves the other. It´s like darkness – you don’t have to deal with darkness and try to remove it like the “Schildbuerger” tried (or the Wise Men of Gotham. They wanted to remove the darkness out of a house by filling it into bags and carrying it out, instead of switching the lights on).
Deal with the positive - just switch on the light, just learn to decide.
I know, that´s another miracle healer advice, however many self help
sites on the web give initial valuable advice. (See bottom of this page)
Starving in front of food
A small tip that sometimes may help when you recollect this picture:A donkey has the choice between two piles of food. Both same size and quality. If it approaches to one pile it thinks, maybe the other one is bigger and better and goes back to the first one.
There it has the same thoughts. Furthermore, see-saw walking back and forth doesn’t come to eat. If it doesn’t decide some time it will starve between two piles of rich food!
That’s the story and of course, I do not compare you with a donkey. To decide often includes to leave something, however have the chance to gain something even better.
Many people having difficulties with procrastination only see, what
they will miss, what they will have to leave behind. They miss to see
what could will come, what could be a benefit?
Balancing these two thoughts may help to do the first step towards overcoming this bad habit.
Even if your decision fails – nobody is perfect and the world is full of people who made wrong decisions. Paradoxically those people are often the most successful, because if they decide often, the have the chance to learn more and make experiences more often.
Many successful companies are extremely failure-tolerant exactly due
to richer experiences by their employees.
Method of small steps
If you have troubles with postponing you also may try another method to cure it. Don’t expect to eliminate procrastination over night, if you are struggling with it since a long time.
You needed time to “learn” it, and you too need time to “delearn” or deconstruct it, using a modern diction.First be fully aware, any avoided decision is a decision too.
It is not so easy to state a rule which cures all forms or origins
of procrastination. Maybe the following idea can help in some
You definitely cannot not decide
If a decision is requested from you, you always, again: ALWAYS decide!
Every time you observe or you feel you are procrastinating, move your attention towards a small and quick check of possible alternatives and consequences of acting and not acting.
Change your view only, don’t even give the smallest amount of energy to considerations about procrastination. Don’t stare like the rabbit into the eyes of the snake, (I am aware, that again requires a decision)
It is unsuitable to do this in your head only, jot it down, make a little decision matrix or similar, just to have it clear and materialized. If is outside your mind too this way you are much better able to deal with, to handle it from some distance.
You should be aware, that you cannot not decide! Hammer this truth into your mind.
Remaining passive is definitely another decision and most often the first wrong decision you are afraid of. Passivity nurtures the experience of wrong decisions and supports a down spiral of disappointment.
Dare to make wrong decisions, what will happen?, what may happen?,
what is the worst case if you decide wrong?
Pushing and pulling
You have the possibility to impose some pressure on one side, when a decision need to be made (fear) by making visible the alternatives, and can create a pull at the other side, if your decisions are deeply goal oriented.
Naturally, it must be goals only that you have set with full
personal confidence and nobody else imposed on you or demanded from you.